I am honestly very concerned about a son. I believe he may have inherited Bipolar Disorder. Let’s refer to him as PB. A very close person in the family had/has BD and displayed very similar behaviours & tendencies that PB has manifested over twenty years ago around his age. He is now in his mid thirties. This is not only based on what has happened over the past year or two but in various unusual behaviours & tendencies by PB over the past couple of decades.

PB would always want the latest, best and most expensive mobile phones even though in reality a lot of the time he wasn’t in a proper financial position for that and actually didn’t even need that. I tried to tell him on various occasions that a times £10 phone is more than good enough for him however he would always insist on spending times £100, then some while later break the phone and then spend another times £100 on another and so on. I tried to get him to see that he was working on farms and there was a good chance he would break the phone but still he insisted on spending times £100 each time on a phone rather than times £10 which would have been clearly more sensible and equally sufficient for him. However as anyone dealing with a Bipolar Disorder daughter or son knows all too well even beginning to get them to see sense is beyond impossible. Then around that time I came downstairs to find him rolling around the kitchen floor violently kicking the cupboards and oven etc in a complete state simply because some people on the farm had given him a little hassle. At the time I never even thought about BD however now looking back this was a clear sign that at least something just wasn’t right with him. Another early sign back then is the absolutely disgraceful state PB left my bedroom in one time I went abroad (pictures 1 2). Having a total disregard for some people and in particular a parent is another clear symptom of Bipolar Disorder. Another significant sign I think he may have inherited Bipolar Disorder is in 2009 he decided he wanted a dog. I agreed. We got a lovely rescue three month old puppy from a rehoming centre. However he then basically spent the next six months tormenting it and basically not doing anything much to properly look after him. Yes he did take him for the occasional walk but it was only usually when he wanted and in reality he didn’t do anything much else to actually properly look after it, a lot of which was then left up to me. However the truth is I did struggle with that as I was very busy with other things at the time and travelling abroad a lot and our dog unduly unfortunately and regrettably suffered because of that. Then after six months of PB pestering our dog one evening clearly after him obviously having enough of that our dog attacked him. PB then spent the next month in a wheelchair recovering. However even though deep down I knew it was PB who was ultimately responsible I had no choice but to then have our dog put down the next morning and then bury him which is one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. Our dog was lovely and he did not deserve how horribly PB treated him. Although I have many cherished memories with our dog from that time I do now regret listening to PB back then and getting him. However in hindsight he would have been much better going to another home that were actually more prepared, willing and ready to take care of him in the first place. The sad reality is PB simply wanted a dog without being ready to fully take on the proper responsibility to properly look after and correctly treat that dog. On another occasion some years later PB once again said to me he wanted another dog even though at the time he was travelling a lot and spending a lot of time abroad. He basically wanted another dog but essentially wanted me to take care of that dog for him! Thankfully on that specific occasion I did say no. Another clear sign during that time between 2009 - 2012 I lent PB £12,000 but now realise that a lot of that most likely was wasted on those overly expensive mobile phones he was fixated with always having. In 2012 I asked for £3,000 of the £12,000 I lent him back after he came into some significant funds after working a harvest season. However he was very reluctant to do that and I had to basically very strongly encourage him to do that. Over the following ten years or so I haven’t bothered him about the £9,000 he still owed me and at one point in 2017 I even said to him that there was no hurry on paying back that £9,000 to me. However over the following few years he then started spending and ultimately wasting a lot of money on various vehicles without even once suggesting to pay back any of the £9,000 he still owed me. It is not the fact he wanted these vehicles that was the problem but that he wasted a lot of money on them even knowing full well he still owed me £9,000. The last straw was when in 2023 he purchased a Range Rover and then lost thousands on that a couple of months later after realising that wasn’t really suitable or practical for him. I know he was on a good wage however surely under any usual circumstance the more right and proper thing for in particular any daughter or son who owes a parent any money is to at least offer to pay that money back before even thinking of splashing out on expensive items. The proper thing to do once anyone start to come into some significant funds before even thinking of buying anything of significant value and in particular anything they don’t inn reality need is to first settle any debts they might have especially with a close relative and especially a father. The truth is he should have at least come to me about settling the £9,000 he owed me before even considering splashing out on a Range Rover. Don’t get me wrong I am very happy he is doing well for himself but morally & correctly what he should have done is at least talked to me about settling his debt with me before even thinking of buying such a very expensive item. These are the things I know directly about, there could well be a lot more I simply don’t know. However the overwhelming sensation from from what I do know about over the past two decades is it screams BD. The main moment though when I suddenly realised that something was not quite right was last year when he sent a rather strongly worded message I had sent him concerning my sister and another not totally endearing message his Mum had sent me that I had then sent to him also concerning my sister that I had forwarded to him some weeks before. My message was sent in the heat of a moment when I was very very annoyed with my sister. I instantly regretted that message and have at least tried my best to apologise for it since. Who hasn’t said something at some point or another that they immediately regretted. I even sent another message to PB shortly after sending the regrettable one in relation to my sister apologising to him about it. However he still went ahead and forwarded it to my sister anyway. One thing to come out of that though was the sudden realisation that there is most likely more to all of this and PB’s general extra and sometimes extra inappropriate behaviours and tendencies over the past couple of decades. Then to make matters worse when I tried to smooth things over with my sister he then sent the other not totally endearing message his Mum had sent me about my sister also to my sister which then put a stop to that. Now surely generally a son would normally be happy and would want to help a father fix any problem with his only sibling sister not go out of their way to make things even worse between them. Then to make things even worse he then cut of total contact with his Mum & I and now wants nothing whatsoever to do with neither of us. Another very concerning thing I have become aware of over the past year or two is how PB has been belittling both his Mum & I and the things we say, do and get involved with to other people. We both maybe a little somewhat eccentric and out there with what we might say, do and get involved with however neither of us are so terribly bad. The best PB could come up at one point when asked what specific problem he has with me for turning totally radically against me his own father and being generally so horrible with me was that I am a supposed ‘liar’. Not a murderer or a drug smuggler etc but a ‘liar’! He has caused all this bother between him & I and a whole lot of bother for the family as a whole and other people simply because supposedly I am a ‘liar’. Even if I am a supposed ‘liar’ do you honestly think that justifies turning totally radically against your own father and seriously extra damaging his relationship with his only sibling sister etc??? Yes I am the first to admit I might tell the odd white lie from time to time number one to protect those extra close to me and number two to get what I might need. Show me some/anyone who has/doesn’t do that. Everyone tells the odd fib from time to time but they don’t have their own son turn totally radically against them and be so horrible with them because of that!!! I just can’t believe no one else sees & realises how very very odd this all is. Other than possibly having Bipolar Disorder I honestly do not understand what this particular issue PB seems to have with me. Yes I might be somewhat eccentric and out there with some of the things I might say, do and get involved with however that is never any reason to turn against anyone let alone your own dad. I do know I haven’t done anything so terribly bad to deserve the absolutely horrible way PB has treated me over in particular the past couple of years. I done all I could for him to bring him up and look after him as best as I could during ten years as a single parent. Even though I had a feeling something wasn’t quite right with how he had been with me for a number of years it was only really after I found out about him unfortunately sending my regrettable message I sent to him about my sister to my sister that I realised something more serious was wrong. Up until that point I treated him as if everything was fine and of course continued to do whatever I could for him. It would seem that he has attained a very low impression of me in general possibly to do with somewhat unconventional things I might sat, do or be involved in. However I am not involved in anything horribly wrong. To turn totally against any/someone simply because of some unusual idea or alternative political/social stance they might have would be very wrong but to do that to your own father would be absolutely disgraceful. Most of the generally accepted ways and political/social ideals of today all started off as rather out there for their particular time period. However once again just because your mother and/or father might say some additionally out there things, might do some additionally out there things and might be involved in some additionally out there things is no reason to ever turn totally against them. I was in no way picking any fight with PB before he sent those messages to my sister to really make things worse between us. In fact a couple of months before PB came to collect some paperwork and both my partner & I give him a hug as usual when he left not knowing what such a horrible thing he was going to do just a couple of months later. I never had an issue with him, except from time to time about his very odd behaviour & tendencies. I remember one occeassion where we nearly came to blows about once again the absolutely horrific state he had left my bedroom in. However other than his sometimes serious and sometimes radical behaviours & tendencies from time to time over many years I had no other real issue with him. I would often say about his sometimes serious and sometimes radical behaviours & tendencies that it was ‘just PB being PB’ however now I am absolutely convinced it is rather ‘just PB being BD’.

I am absolutely convinced that it is Biplolar Disorder that is behind all of the very unfortunate regrettable things he has done over the years. Being prone to sometimes serious and sometimes radical behaviours & tendencies from time to time over many years is a clear sign of BD. Of course we all do silly and possibly even very stupid things from time to time but a BD person will take that to whole new levels. Deep down I have always thought something was just not quite right with generally PB’s overall behaviour & tendencies however it was only last year after he sent his Mum and I’s messages to my sister to really mess things up with her that I actually put my finger on most likely what might be truly going on here and what might truly be behind all of this. However if only we can get him the professional help and medication he might so desperately need he could have a more normal overall behaviour & tendencies and especially a more normal relationship with those around him and of course with his Mum & I. However my main concern is the possible danger if he does actually have BD and continues to go on untreated is he could be a very serious risk not only to himself but also those around him and especially those extra close to him. If he does have BD and remains untreated he could also be horrible or do something horrible with someone else like he has and is being with his Mum & I. If in fact he has Bipolar Disorder I know he most likely will not be fully aware of all what he is doing and how overall horrible he is being. I am genuinely concerned about the potentially serious risk he might pose to someone else or that he might do something also horrible to someone else. I know if left non medicated he is also a very serious risk to himself as a Bipolar Disorder person can go to very very dark places especially when they are on one of their excessive lows.

Following my sudden realisation back in February last year 2024 after PB sent those messages from his Mum & I about my sister to her that he might have inherited BD I then frantically set about trying to get others to see that so we could possibly get him the help he might so desperately need. However now as a result of that a lot of people including my own family have gotten very annoyed with me simply for doing that when all I have been doing is trying to get people to see my genuine concerns for PB’s well being and nothing more. I am in no way out to purposely hurt PB, quite the complete opposite. I sincerely honestly believe PB might have BD. It is basically a genuine honest concern of a father for his son and nothing more. I spent 20 years of my life with him and I think I know when something just isn’t right. I also witnessed his Spanish aunt’s struggles with BD and the similarities with what I unfortunately have seen over generally the past few years with PB. All I have been doing is simply trying to get everyone else to see there might be something not quite right with him. What kind of father would I be if I didn’t do that? Yes in hindsight I could have been more subtle & considerate with that however I don’t nor will I ever regret at least trying to get people to see their could well be something underlying wrong with PB. I think anyone who genuinely thought there daughter or son was unwell in some way or another would also be out to get others to see that. I am genuinely/legitimayely very concerned for him in particular when he suddenly realises how absolutely horrible he has been to his own Mum & I.

I have also seen PB be absolutely horrible on numerous other occassions over the past couple of decades way beyond what is usual. This to me is very odd indeed. However no one else really sees that or simply refuses to see that. Unfortunately the only time other people might see that is if/when he is regrettably also equally might be not so nice to them in some way or another. However having said that I am fully aware that he most likely is simply not in a right frame of mind and hasn’t been in a right frame of mind for many years now. However one of my biggest concerns is him one day realising how absolutely horrible he has been with his own Mum & I his own Dad when in reality neither of us have done anything so terribly bad to deserve that. Yes we may be a little out there in what we might say, do or get involved with and maybe I might tell the odd fib from time to time but really is that reason enough to turn so totally radically against your own mother & father? To me he is unwell and I will never give up hoping others will eventually see that so hopefully we can get him the proper professional help he might need.

Just before Christmas 2024 I sent an AI produced heartfelt Christmas message DVD basically summing all I was going through and in particular concerning a most likely BD son to all close family members in Northern Ireland in the hope that at least someone would get back to me about it A Christmas Message 2024. No one did. However to be honest I wasn’t really that surprised. They had already most of them more or less turned their backs on me. Even though my only sibling sister to say the least was not being very nice with me, basically breaking off proper contact with me after most likely I couldn’t meet up with her as I was going through a particularily difficult period at the time. However no one was saying or doing anything significant about that and just continuing to treat her as usual. Then when I shared my genuine & legitimate concerns about a son possibly having inherited Bipolar Disorder basically nobody cared.